This excerpt is relatively long – but I didn’t want to leave you hanging too much.
ADVENTURE – AN OVERVIEW
“The purpose of life is to live it, to taste experience to the utmost, to reach out eagerly and without fear for newer and richer experience.”
― Eleanor Roosevelt
I’ve always wanted to do something important. Do something which could change people’s lives. Make a difference. I finally found it and it involves writing, the great joy of my life. This is it!
That’s right, you’re holding it. I absolutely know this book will help someone, maybe lots of people, to step into a new life. Whoa! Don’t get scared off. A new life may just be altering small things to help you live your life with joy instead of the complacency we’ve all felt from time to time.
This is my goal with “Hugs” (what I’ve come to call my book throughout this process). At the end of our journey, I hope to hear from you and that you’ll pass on some extraordinary news. You’ve decided to spend two weeks this summer in the Galapagos Islands. Or there’s an exhibition of your artwork, which you’ve been hoarding in your basement for years, at the local library. Maybe you’ve decided to go back to school to finish the degree in archaeology you started a gazillion years ago. Perhaps simply adding a weekly Exploration Date to your calendar has given you the boost you needed to start thinking about a future adventure. Whatever it is, I hope you’ll share. My email address is in the back of the book. Please use it!
As I begin putting thoughts down, I’m traveling throughout Southeast Asia, and have been for months, on the funds provided by my social security check. Pretty adventurous, you say? But I’ve always found a way to live an adventure most days, and you can too. That’s why I’ll be sharing a bit of my life with you – to show you it can be done.
Before you go any further, I want you to buy a notebook. Unless you absolutely can’t do anything else – for real reasons, like money or immobility – I want you to go to your local bookstore or discount retailer and buy a small but attractive notebook. Why can’t you just grab a school notebook from your kid’s room? Here’s why: because it’s disposable to you. Come on, anyone can toss away a notebook which costs them less than a dollar. This is important! Go spend 4 or 5 dollars or whatever you want on a notebook which will call to you and make you want to hold on to it. I promise you won’t regret it.
Go now. We’ll reconvene here when you have that precious item – your adventure notebook.
LIVING EVERY DAY
“Life should not be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a pretty and well preserved body, but rather to skid in broadside in a cloud of smoke, thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming “Wow! What a Ride!” ― Hunter S. Thompson
Now that you’ve had a bit of inspiration from Mr. Thompson, let’s get busy. Do you have your new journal? Is it attractive? Good, let’s get started.
Passion! Some of the people I most admire aren’t famous for some gigantic adventure they undertook, but simply the living of life in the fullest way possible.
I’ve always admired Katharine Hepburn, the feisty red-headed actress who forced the studios to treat her the same as they did their male stars and defied convention by living openly with Spencer Tracy, a married Catholic who could not divorce at the time, but had long been separated from his wife when he fell in love with Hepburn. She made ladies’ trousers acceptable, even fashionable. She lived with passion, on her own terms.
However, you don’t have to be a rebel to rock your world. You simply have to care deeply about something, open yourself to experiences (hopefully around that passion or maybe a newfound one) and then grab them and hang on for dear life.
Getting stuck in a life which isn’t working is probably a state most people experience, however there’s no real way to tell. How are you going to take a poll on that one? Just look around you. Who do you know who is either completely disengaged or hanging on by a thread?
I find most people are yearning for something more. They are stuck in a daily grind and to get through they need some relief, some reward. If moving beyond your grind is your goal, this book will help.
You are one of the lucky ones. The very fact you are holding this book in your hands means you have recognized a lack in your life and are ready to do something about it. You probably haven’t decided yet what it is you want to do or how are you are going to get there. That’s what “Hugs” is all about.
We’re going to look at very, very simple things you can do to increase the fabulous in your life. There are going to be very specific tasks and questions you need to think about and answer for yourself. However, from day one of the battle plan (and it is exactly that) you’ll see small results.
We’ll build on them and slowly you’ll gear up to a big adventure, if that’s what you’re looking for or you may just liven things up, which is absolutely fine. The objective is to make you feel better about whatever you’re doing or having to put up with if you’re stuck or to give you the push you need to jump off the cliff and tackle that great Big Dream you’ve always had.
“Dreaming, after all, is a form of planning.” – Gloria Steinem
The Big Dream will differ hugely from person to person. I’m not talking about whether you want to bungee jump or travel down the Amazon in a canoe instead. Nope. I also mean will you decide to finally go back to school (a tremendous adventure) or write a screenplay or build and live in a treehouse. Whatever it is you’re trying to get up the nerve
to do or whatever barriers you need to overcome, I’m here to help you get started.
BEGIN SMALL, BUT BEGIN
I once had a friend who was a young widow yearning to begin a new life with someone – to have a relationship again. However, she did absolutely nothing towards beginning anew. She mostly continued to mourn her husband and wallow in her changed status as a widow. It’s hard to say if she was really ready for a new man, but her expressed desire prompted me to say one day, “You know men aren’t going to come to your door and knock. You must get out there where they are.”
She did eventually meet someone online, who didn’t turn out to be what she had expected, so she again retreated into her secluded walled-off space. We eventually lost track of each other and I often wonder what happened. Did she finally find a new love?
Changing any part of your daily existence can be scary, challenging and take a bit of “putting yourself out there.” But at whatever stage of life you find yourself, whatever it is you’re looking for, it is pretty obvious you are going to have to do something and take a risk to get it or to change it.
First we’re going to talk about opening the door to change and then the rest of the book will show you how to walk through it. I’m going to give you very workable, easy steps to both. As the title says, these are going to be simple ways to put some adventure in your life and then we’ll see if you’re ready or even interested in the bigger stuff. It’s up to you. No pressure. Baby steps.